Poly Musings

[foxgrrl]

[I don't have a lot of time, so I'll keep this brief.]

Recently, several friends of mine [probably reading this now], and I, have been trying to figure out if we are officially dating or not. I'm currently in a relationship with Nyah [whimsywanderer], and I don't want to leave her, but society has taught me from birth to be insanely devoted to your only partner. And that cheating on your partner is the more horribly unimaginable crime ever — grounds for murder and divorce. Some of the other people involved are also in their own open/poly relationships, so it's ok for them to date me… But I still fear that I'm comiting some horrible crime against their other partners.

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[roadknight.livejournal.com]

Everybody else has pretty much said what I was going to say, but it's so important I'll say it again.
1. Answer the question of how it feels to you and Nyah, rather than how it feels to society.
2. Don't lie, don't omit, don't "protect", don't "forget". Communicate, communicate, communicate.
For me, telling everybody involved out to the second degree(partner's partner) has worked well for me.Sometimes P^2s don't want to know what their partner is up to away from them, but then again that brings us around to communicating again.