Poly Musings

[foxgrrl]

[I don't have a lot of time, so I'll keep this brief.]

Recently, several friends of mine [probably reading this now], and I, have been trying to figure out if we are officially dating or not. I'm currently in a relationship with Nyah [whimsywanderer], and I don't want to leave her, but society has taught me from birth to be insanely devoted to your only partner. And that cheating on your partner is the more horribly unimaginable crime ever — grounds for murder and divorce. Some of the other people involved are also in their own open/poly relationships, so it's ok for them to date me… But I still fear that I'm comiting some horrible crime against their other partners.

Comments

[two-pi-r.livejournal.com]

Poly is given a fairly bad rap by many people, but if you can make it work, i've found that it's a whole lot of fun.

The only advice I can give is "worry about the other partners only if you have to." Not that this means to say "fuck you" to them, but try to enjoy the other partner's company. Resolve disputes immediately, the like.