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Jul. 9th, 2008 02:35 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
foxgrrlSomething that I'm not sure of how to deal with, are people who are extremely reluctant to try anything new. Like if there is something that is special and wonderous for me, and I want to share it with someone, they'll be like "But what if I won't like that." and I'm like: "the future hasn't happened yet, and it's my favorite thing." and so I bring them to the special thing, and they complain biterly the whole time. Like if I bring them to my favorite restaurant, they go on and on about how horrible the food is. Because it's not just like McDonnalds. Or if I bring them hiking to my favorite woods, etc. They'll complain about the trees. Or complain about the sand at the beach, and all that horrible sunlight, etc.
I want to shake some sense into these people and tell them: "Listen! The person making your life horrible is you. You're the one calling everything horrible wherever you go."
What I really want if for them to enjoy themsevles and have fun.
EDIT: I was distracted and forgot to mention that from the moment the question is asked, they've alredy decided to hate it, long before the activity happens. (They'll go on and on about how horrible it's going to be.)
EDIT 2: This wasn't neccesarilly about just getting people to try new foods. There is an implicit message that underlies this mode of communication that the entire world should be absolutely safe and comfortable. Conversations will go like:
(Person travels thousands of miles to California for the first time.)
"Hey, have you ever seen the Pacific Ocean?"
"No"
"Would you like to?"
"Yes."
"Ok, well let's go now since it's the only opportunity before you leave."
"But what if your car breaks down?"
"Well, it's brand new, in good maintainence, has never had a failure to date, and I have roadside assistance anyway."
"But what if (some other unlikely problem)."
"(Not a problem)"
[Iterate pattern.]
"Ok let's do something else here while you have the opportunity. How about [local thingy]?
"But what if (another trivial problem)?"
Aargh, these arn't horribly grave problems, nor dangerous risks.
I want to shake some sense into these people and tell them: "Listen! The person making your life horrible is you. You're the one calling everything horrible wherever you go."
What I really want if for them to enjoy themsevles and have fun.
EDIT: I was distracted and forgot to mention that from the moment the question is asked, they've alredy decided to hate it, long before the activity happens. (They'll go on and on about how horrible it's going to be.)
EDIT 2: This wasn't neccesarilly about just getting people to try new foods. There is an implicit message that underlies this mode of communication that the entire world should be absolutely safe and comfortable. Conversations will go like:
(Person travels thousands of miles to California for the first time.)
"Hey, have you ever seen the Pacific Ocean?"
"No"
"Would you like to?"
"Yes."
"Ok, well let's go now since it's the only opportunity before you leave."
"But what if your car breaks down?"
"Well, it's brand new, in good maintainence, has never had a failure to date, and I have roadside assistance anyway."
"But what if (some other unlikely problem)."
"(Not a problem)"
[Iterate pattern.]
"Ok let's do something else here while you have the opportunity. How about [local thingy]?
"But what if (another trivial problem)?"
Aargh, these arn't horribly grave problems, nor dangerous risks.
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Date: 2008-07-10 03:51 am (UTC)Srsly! I begged my sister to come see me when I had an apartment in Paris and Amsterdam and she did not and would not do it. I was in Barcelona with a friend and we almost came to blows over eating tapas at an outdoor cafe (my idea) or eating inside an airconditioned Pizza Hut (his). We compromised by eating PHut sitting outside on a fountain in front of a Gaudi designed building.