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No, I don't want to be your
No, I don't want to
No, I don't want to hug you.
Stop touching me.
Please don't make me have to stab your eyes with my fingers.
What is it with creepy guys hitting on me everywhere I go now. It always used to happen before, but now it's an epidemic. By creepy guys, I mean, strangers who want to be personally intimate with you within the first five or ten seconds of speaking to you. And who ignore anything you say, and creep closer and closer and closer as they (pretend to) talk to you, trying to touch you. Strategically, when then guy is within arm's reach, I wonder if I should attack him while I still have the element of surprise. It's more legally defensible though if I wait for him to touch me first before I kick his ass. But I'm in a strategically weaker position if he already has a hand on my body. (FYI: For the last few days, I've managed to walk away without being followed. Also, I've been wearing cargo pants, a zipped up hoodie covering an unseen t-shirt, my hair tied back in a pony tail, and no makeup, jewelry, or bra.)
Update (May 26 08:49 PDT)
sweetie.
No, I don't want to
Git to know you.
No, I don't want to hug you.
Stop touching me.
Please don't make me have to stab your eyes with my fingers.
What is it with creepy guys hitting on me everywhere I go now. It always used to happen before, but now it's an epidemic. By creepy guys, I mean, strangers who want to be personally intimate with you within the first five or ten seconds of speaking to you. And who ignore anything you say, and creep closer and closer and closer as they (pretend to) talk to you, trying to touch you. Strategically, when then guy is within arm's reach, I wonder if I should attack him while I still have the element of surprise. It's more legally defensible though if I wait for him to touch me first before I kick his ass. But I'm in a strategically weaker position if he already has a hand on my body. (FYI: For the last few days, I've managed to walk away without being followed. Also, I've been wearing cargo pants, a zipped up hoodie covering an unseen t-shirt, my hair tied back in a pony tail, and no makeup, jewelry, or bra.)
Update (May 26 08:49 PDT)
- In these situations, I have about three seconds to assess the situation, and take decisive action. Anything that takes more time is not a viable solution.
- I didn't want to say this, but the common element to these experiences, is that the male is black, older, and a poor communicator. The two times when this has happened while shopping, I also noticed that the man did not purchase anything from the store.
- The stakes are higher in my case because I'm trans. Attempted rape becomes attempted murder, and I get blamed for it because I'm
deceiving
people. (The murder rate for transsexuals is about 2%.) (At least there's no public information linking my old and current names, so the press will have to use the right name when they talk about my death.) - I advocate and practice non-violence whenever possible. But I also have an extremely strong self-preservation instinct when I'm in an immanently life threatening situation.
- I practiced martial arts for a few years, about a decade ago. In a physical altercation against anyone who doesn't know martial arts (most people), I stand a good chance. All of my muscle memory is to not actually damage the person though, if it comes to that I'll have to figure things out as I go along.
